It’s a new year. A time to do some self-reflection. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. This is the beginning of a new year. Since it’s a new year it’s a time to take a look inside and see what changes need to be made to live the life you desire and deserve. So often we look at other people and their faults and very seldom look at ourselves. What are WE doing to ourselves to hold us back? What are we doing to prevent us from moving forward? Pursuing our dreams? Realizing our goals? There are a few things that come to mind: fear, people pleasing and complacency.
Fear is something that can control us if we allow it to. As we know God doesn’t give us the spirit of fear. So, if God doesn’t give it to us, where does it come from? Fear can cripple, limit and have a hold on you keeping you bound. Fear was something that I allowed to control me. When I begin to REALLY think about what I was afraid of it didn’t make sense to me. I feared what other people thought about me. I feared being the center of attention. I feared public speaking. I feared a lot of things and I allowed my fear to control me. When I begin to no longer care what others thought and began to care only what God thought, THAT is when I began to conquer my fears. WHY did I care what others thought of me? WHY did I fear public speaking? WHY did I fear being the center of attention? It all boiled down to not seeing myself the way God saw me. When I began to TRULY believe that I was more than a conqueror, that I was fearfully and wonderfully made, that I was above and not beneath and that I could do ALL things through Christ, that is when I was able to leave fear behind and move forward in faith. Fear to me now means F.ace E.verything. A.nd R.ise.
People pleasing is something else that holds us back from living the life we desire. One of my mentors referred to it as being in bondage to people. We try to keep up with the Joneses (whoever they are). We get a job in a career we don’t even like sometimes to please our parents. We go to a school because someone else wants us to go there. Sometimes we even marry All this nsomeone because it’s who someone else believes we should be with. There comes a time when we should realize that life is too short. And it doesn’t matter what ANYONE thinks of us except God. Everything we do should be pleasing unto Him. Is what others want for us in God’s plan? Are we listening to them or to Him? Sometimes people want to live their lives vicariously through you so they push THEIR dreams and goals on you. In this New Year, I want to encourage you to live your life for GOD and no one else.
Complacency is something else that holds us back. We become content or comfortable with where we are. Our usual every day routine is familiar. It’s difficult to move from the familiar. Sometimes we complain about wanting a change or wanting something different. But, instead of doing something different we stay the same. We stay stagnant. We stay complacent. It is impossible to move forward, to see change, to embrace the new while doing NOTHING. You can have faith that something will change and that things will be different, but you still have to DO something.
There is no better time like the present. It’s a new year. It’s time to be true to yourself and live your life for YOU not others. Let go of fear and begin to care only what God thinks about you and most importantly as you are desiring to please God DO something. Don’t remain stagnant, complacent and comfortable. Allow 2017 to be the year of transformation. Allow it to be the year of YOU. Be You. Be original. Be Real. Be True.
Eraina Tinnin is a speaker, affectionately called an inspirational powerhouse, professional life coach and entrepreneur. She has been named an “Encourager” because of her unfailing ability to lift the spirits of others. In addition to being a contributor with Authentically You magazine she is an international best-selling author of Becoming a Beautiful You. She has a Master’s Degree in Human Services with a specialization in Marriage & Family Therapy from Liberty University. She is a wife, mother and ministry leader. Eraina can be reached via her website www.erainatinninonline.com email: email@example.com Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/simplyeraina